Passionate Living Newsletter - Summer 2015

Welcome to Passionate Living Newsletter

Hello, I’m Laura B. Young

A Newsletter for those who dare to want the fullest life possible:

“But where was I to start? The world is so vast; I shall start with the country I know best, my own. But my country is so very large.  I had better start with my town.  But my town, too, is large. I had best start with my street. No: my home. No: my family. Never mind, I shall start with myself.” - Elis Wiesel, Souls on Fire, 1973

The Message

I see a light but no fire.
Is this what my life is to be like? 
Better to head for the grave.

A messenger comes, the grief-courier, and the
message is that the woman you love is in her house
alone, and wants you to come while it is still night.

Clouds unbroken, rain all night, all night.
I don't understand these wild impulses- 
what is happening to me? 

A lightning flash is followed by deeper melancholy. 
I stumble around inside looking for the path the night
wants me to take.

Light, where is the light?
Light the fire, if you have desire!
Thunder, rushing wind, nothingness.
Black night, black stone.
Don't let your whole life go by in the dark.

Evidently the only way to find the path is to
set fire to my own life! : (Rabindranath Tagore) 

The Message is a poem that has a profound impact on me.  It holds space for unanswered questions, all the while raising more questions than answers.  I believe that the grief-courier comes to tell us that even if we have forsaken  dreams, it is never too late to step over a threshold-now- and pick them up again, or some heartfelt version of them. If we take action, and not procrastinate, we can still have love and passion and abundance.  What does it mean to set fire to our own lives? We cannot wait until the day, when the time is just right to honor our essence and share that which is uniquely us.  Tagore asks us to let go of the ways we are bound by other people’s ‘shoulds’ and second hand rules that we had to obey in the beginning of our lives to survive. We let go so that we might embrace the life that our soul knows we are capable of living.


Do You Listen to the Night Messenger?

(The Power of your Dreams)

Frequently clients will tell me that they have had nightmares lately, and were very happy to wake up and know that it wasn’t real life.  When I ask them if they wrote the dream down or spent any time reflecting on its contents, the usual response is NO. I believe that by ignoring the contents of dreams, especially recurrent dreams or nightmares we cut ourselves off from a rich tapestry of information that is most helpful and revealing,, especially at times of major life decisions.

At important junctures of change in life, when it is time to cross another threshold, and I am doing my usual dance of fear, I have a recurrent dream.

The dream goes something like this: I am travelling and my purse that I snapped shut with all of my money and identifying papers is either lost or stolen. Reflect a minute on what we carry in our purses that we hold near and dear. Much of what is in there identifies us, represents who we think we are; a sense of self at this point in our lives.  When I reflect on the meaning of the dream; the messenger of the night tells me that I am holding on too tight to old ways, also that I need to embrace change, and my expand my frame of reference, more, now!  Not next year.

The message has a sense of urgency to it. In the dream, I usually panic, experience tightness in my body and an overwhelming feeling of fear and helplessness about what to do.  In real life when push comes to shove, I feel panicky, tightness in my body, and feelings of overwhelm.

So what is different you may ask? If we do not attend to issues when they arrive in real life, dreams will, to get our attention, present us with exaggerated symbols of what we go through when we fear serious change and the unknown.

Dreams are powerful teachers using drama to stop us in our tracks, and give us a picture of something that we are hiding in our unconscious, especially if we have not been paying attention all along. Dreams, especially nightmares, give such dramatic visuals that we cannot ignore them.  What I know for sure is, when I have the above recurrent dream, it is time for me to let go of some more limiting beliefs, thoughts, feelings or players on my stage of life to which I am overly attached.

What is your recurrent dream?

Have you taken time to examine it, or have you in fear or avoidance pushed it out of your consciousness.

 “When an inner situation is not made conscious, it appears outside as fate”  - Jung

Tip:  What we resist or deny does not go away. It is usually stored in the unconscious gathering more energy to clout us when we least expect it. Have you ever said, or have you ever done something, that caused you to say I don’t know what came over me. It wasn’t me; I would never do or say that in my right mind. Well it was you, the hidden you, the shadow you, that you push down, that you do not like.

Often what we experience as a nightmare, when examined under the clear light of day is a rich tapestry of information, if you want to know. Take a few minutes and face the nightmare, turn it inside out, therein you will find your gold. The darkness within will be transformed .It is a strong, nudge from your unconscious that something needs to be changed or corrected. .

Dreams are one way to understand the power of what you have stored in your unconscious .Other ways to access the  power house of your unconscious, as well as strategies and exercises, are given in “Love the Dark Side of Your Moon” on my website: